When I first came into the knowledge about salvation and made the decision to live my life for Christ, I was 20. I’ll be turning 24 this year, and I can say that this journey has been well worth it at such a pivotal decade of my life. In the beginning of this walk of faith, I battled the idea that this journey was seemingly for older people. I never really saw teens and 20-something year olds fully dedicated to living the life Jesus laid for us. I thought that somehow you would be missing out on experiences that can only be found in the world.
In an interview with Big Think, Dr. Meg Jay, a clinical psychologist and narrative nonfiction writer, talks about the themes found in her book The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter And How To Make The Most Of Them Now. Debunking the myth that 30 is the new 20, she states that “our 20s are the defining decade of adulthood.” Using my own experiences, the Bible, and the knowledge gleaned from this interview, I plan to give a kingdom outlook of the benefits of being saved in your 20s!
1. Less Drama – From friends, boys, and all of the above
“Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?” (2 Corinthians 6:14 KJV)
Let’s be honest, we all have that one friend or acquaintance who we are not quite sure why we are friends with in the first place. Not because you don’t like them, but because you wonder what value this relationship is bringing to your life. Dr. Meg Jay says that, “More than half of Americans are married or are dating or living with their future partner by age 30,” and that is a large statistic if you ask me. The bible instructs us not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers, and so if someone is dragging you down or not even attempting to go the same direction as you, that could be a clue that they can’t go with you on the journey of life. Net zero value can be just as harmful as negative value. Although some relationships need to be cut off completely, this could be a chance to love them from a distance as you continue the walk that God has laid for you. Drama and stress is far less worth the joy that the God-ordained relationships will bring.
2. Peace, Stability and Discipline – The right kind
“As His divine power has given to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of Him who called us by glory and virtue, by which have been given to us exceedingly great and precious promises, that through these you may be partakers of the divine nature, having escaped the corruption that is in the world through lust.” (2 Peter 1:3-4 NKJV)
One benefit of being young and saved, is the ability to learn good strategies and tactics early on in life that work! Sometimes we are taught information from generations before us that just isn’t the best or healthiest way to live life. It is passed down because so many people have done it before you. Things like money management, how to treat and meet a spouse, how to treat others, and self-esteem. All of this can be learned behavior from your parents or even the role models from your family and community. Jay points out an interesting fact that we have all heard, that the brain “does not reach full ‘maturity’ until sometime during our 20s,” which leads many people to give the advice that you should wait until you are older to make large decisions. Giving an alternative perspective, Jay suggests that your 20s is the easiest time to change things about yourself due this well known fact. On top of that, as part of the fruit of the Spirit we get godly discipline to allow us to steward well the true/new identity God has given us.
From my experiences so far, I would agree because I have had the opportunity to be exposed to ideas and strategies that are kingdom-based. This will allow me to start making necessary modifications to old mindsets and habits, creating a trajectory toward stability in every area of my life.
3. Finding a Spouse – God’s way
“But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” (Matthew 6:33 KJV)
Many women my age, are in a serious relationship or are sincerely considering marriage within the next few years. I am a testament, that if you get close to God, He will for sure look out for you in that area! He wants to bless you with good things, but if we are not working to be whole Queens ourselves, how can we expect to be blessed with a whole King as a husband? Seek FIRST the kingdom of God and all His righteousness, and everything else will be provided to you, and it will be a good blessing from the Lord! Not only is a spouse a blessing, but it’s a stewardship. If we aren’t able to maintain stability in our emotions (to the best of our ability while being single), stability in our relationship with God, and stability in other areas of our lives we could accidentally steward poorly what God gives us! Trust God, and wait for the promise!
4. Developing A Relationship with God
“’And I will be a father to you, and you shall be sons and daughters to Me,’ Says the Lord Almighty.” (2 Corinthians 6:18)
The best part about being saved in your 20s, is the relationship you get to develop with Jesus. This is by far the best part about taking the plunge into salvation and holiness early in life. Jesus died for us so that we could be reconciled back to the Father and become His sons and daughters! As a daughter of the Father, how great is it to know that He has your back no matter what you face in life. He’s always with you. He’s consistently going to provide for you, and teach you how to do life. Not only that, but you get to experience His transforming love. It’s too beautiful to miss out on, and so much better than anything we could miss out on in the world. Communion with the Father is always a great idea!
5. Prepared for Prosperity – The sowing and reaping principle
“Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, this he will also reap.” (Galatians 6:7 NASB)
“Recognize that what you do, and what you don’t do, will have an enormous impact across years and even generations.” This quote from the interview has parallels with what is true in the kingdom. Whatever a man sows, that will he also reap. You can’t get back time that was “wasted” or “put to the side” in your younger years. Why not use the time you have now to be the most maximized version of yourself that you can be? God will certainly reward you in this life and in the life to come for it (Luke 18:29-30).
Although there’s definitely more that I could say about the benefits of salvation, I will stop at these five. I hope these help paint a new perspective, toward using the time God has blessed us with wisely!
- “Let no one look down on your youthfulness, but rather in speech, conduct, love, faith and purity, show yourself an example of those who believe.” (1 Timothy 4:12 NASB)
- “Delight yourself in the LORD; And He will give you the desires of your heart.” (Psalm 37:4 NASB)
- “The steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord, And He delights in his way.” (Psalm 37:23 NKJV)
- “In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.” (Psalm 3:6 NASB)
- “If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you.” (John 15:7 NASB)
- “A good man leaves an inheritance to his children’s children, and the wealth of the sinner is stored up for the righteous.” (Proverbs 13:22 NASB)
You can find Dr. Meg Jay’s full interview here: http://bigthink.com/experts-corner/is-twenty-something-the-defining-decade