Are you staying at home with your kids and looking for some tips for structuring your day? Implementing a stay at home mom schedule will do wonders for you!
At this stage in my life, I’ve recently transitioned to the full-time stay at home mom role. Like many people, I worked remotely for the last 2 years. I like to think that prepared me a lot for the realization that having 2 kids under 3 in the house while trying to get anything done needs some preparation and planning! Although remote work prepared me for becoming a stay at home mom, I had to go through a lot of the processes that you may be going through now. This proccess included realizing that I needed to think about how I wanted to structure my time with my kids. It included writing down a stay at home mom schedule so that I could easily flow into the role when the time came.
In this post I’ll list out some of the tips I can give you for building your own stay at home mom schedule. Whether transitioning from working mom to stay at home mom, or already a stay at home mom, I hope this helps you get off to a good start to building some structure into your days! You can find a free printable schedule template in the uncommon grace store.
Things to consider when building a stay at home mom schedule:
Establish Priorities for Your Stay at Home Mom Schedule
When I was researching for this post, I ran across this blog post, by Amy Webb, on pinterest. Her post went a quite a bit into the importance of setting priorities when it comes to your stay at home mom schedule. I agree with Amy, so if I’m giving tips to someone about how to think about structuring their day, I would tell them to keep in mind what’s important to them.
Obviously that’s individual to all of us, but think about your reasons for becoming a stay at home mom. What motivating factors really interested you about quitting your job and dedicating your life to being at home with your kids full-time?
Here are some of things that I found important and was looking forward to in my new role:
- Being able to be present with my kids. The opportunity to prioritize play and quality time/laughter with my kids.
- Being able to build my kids up in godly character and knowledge of the Word of God.
- Being able to manage my cleaning tasks at home.
Keep in mind that these things can change with each new season.
Let Go of Unimportant Things
In that same article, I liked how it was mentioned to be ok with letting things go.
Now that you’ve established your priorities for your time as a stay at home mom, these priorities will become the basis for building your stay at home mom schedule. If you have no intention to maintain a perfectly clean home because your life is just too busy, then don’t! Either hire someone to do those tasks for you, or do the tasks that you can manage.
Chunck your days
When beginning to build your schedule put down the most important things first. Or group your days in chunks leading to the next chunk of important tasks. For example, when I think about my days I group it into the following chunks in my mind:
Fill in the Rest
Then after you have the most important chunks of your day outlined, you can fill in the other important parts. Obviously there’s a lunch time, and for my kids I want to add some learning activities and Bible activities in the day. These times can be based on what your goals are for your kids.
For us it’s important that we spend time playing with our kids as well as teaching them natural and spiritual concepts.
Downtime and Rest Times
When we have kids we are always told to sleep when the baby sleeps. I’m not sure if everyone accomplishes this, but there’s still truth to it when our kids get out of that newborn stage!
For me since I’m pregnant with our 3rd baby boy, (and even when I’m not pregnant) I like taking naps! So I was realistic with myself and realized that I wasn’t going to over schedule my chores or other tasks during the boys’ naps. I like to have down time when they take their naps, so I catered my schedule to this fact about myself.
You can do the same with your schedule. If you know you’d get distracted doing chores if your kids are playing around, then maybe doing them during naps is the best option for you. As with anything, do what works best for you!
Other Ways To Rest
I’ve seen a lot of feedback from people that being a stay at home mom is stressful. And to be honest it is not a job for the faint of heart, but I believe that it can be sweatless. I haven’t perfected this yet, but I believe by faith that it’s possible and that I’m on my way there.
When thinking about other ways to rest in life, I can share something from my own personal walk with the Lord. In this season of my life, I’m learning in a deeper way that godly balance is more than just managing stress and emotions, it also includes diet and exercise. I know those things seem like common sense but I’m realizing it can be harder to control stress or emotions when we’re not eating a diet that’s conducive to our body. So I encourage you to think about ways your physical body can benefit from balance in those ways too.
Other ways that I’ve found helpful for resting are discovering various things I actually like to do for fun. For me, I like taking baths, I like coloring, I like summer days. These “enjoyable” things can/should be added as part of your week when you’re thinking about a stay at home mom schedule. These things help to keep your joy high, and make some of the longer days easier to manage. Having a ready list available for you to refer to when you need it will be helpful!
Adding Cleaning To Your Stay At Home Mom Schedule
The last thing I wanted to address in this post was how to clean while having kids around all the time. In your stay at home mom schedule you can have certain days that you dedicate a manageable task for cleaning or you can do it throughout the week. Whichever works best for your life and your schedule.
For us, I started realizing if I waited more than a day to do dishes then they would be piled up too high. I notice that laundry piles up easily after a few days as well. So for these areas I’m learning I need to be more active with the cleaning. If your dishes and laundry piles are like mine, then you’d probably want to find a time daily that works to consistently do them. I haven’t been perfected this yet, but I find it works best while my kids are eating breakfast for me to do a morning dish clean. That way the dishes aren’t always piled high by the end of the day. I haven’t tried this yet, but I’ve seen people put a load of laundry in faithfully every morning. This helps them keep their laundry manageable and low. Maybe your laundry doesn’t pile up as fast, so then every other day is a laundry day.
Along with those daily/multi-day a week cleaning days, you’ll need a day to do the other things too. This includes things like vacuuming, bathrooms, and depending on your house the mudroom. I’m finding that picking a day to do these things helps the best. Tuesdays is my day for bathrooms, and Thursdays is my day for dusting, vacuuming, straightening up, etc. Manage your days and cleaning based on what works best for the flow of your home.
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“His Lord said to him, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant; you were faithful over a few things, I will make you ruler over many things. Enter into the joy of your Lord.’”Matthew 25:21 NKJV
Even though thinking about your stay at home mom schedule can be very practical and natural minded, I wanted to encourage you to look at it as a stewardship. All that God has given us is for a purpose not just for this life but for the life to come. The more we steward well here on Earth, the more we will be entrusted in the life to come. So even though working through how to clean and set priorities seems not that important, it’s helpful in leading you toward becoming a good steward of the house God has given you and the children God has entrusted to you.
We want to steward well because it helps our kids but it also helps us in eternity. As you build your stay at home mom schedule, I encourage you to get your goals from the wisdom of God and you will reap good fruit in the future!