In the world we live in there is so much identity confusion going around. Knowing who I am in Christ is consistently helping me stay tethered to the truth about my real identity. Having a relationship with the Father is definitely a way for us not to be led astray.
Unfortunately, the farther we move away from the truth, the more we can allow lies about ourselves into our hearts. This leads us to low self esteem, low confidence, and low self-worth. These are mindsets that I’ve had to be consistently renewed from. Thankfully, I know that who I am in Christ has been the key for me continuing in it!
I can give the generic answer that knowing who I am in Christ continues to be the solution for me, but that doesn’t really help anyone. Today, I wrote this post to help those of you seeking solutions for how to actually discover and figure out who God has called you to be and what your real identity is!
I’ll want to start off by giving some strategies for learning about your identity in Christ and how this can help you attain and remain delivered from any other self defeating mentalities.
Strategy 1 for Discovering Who I Am in Christ:
Meditation on the Word and Character of God
As the first strategy, I put the word of God as a way for discovering your real identity. This is the foundation of all other things, because the word is God’s will for us! When you ask the question, “who am I in Christ,” I would recommend studying the bible and looking up scriptures that help you understand the truth about those that live in the Kingdom of God. The whole bible gives us insight into God’s plan for humanity, and it’s glorious!
Because of our reconciled relationship with the Father, we have access to victories, promises, and privileges that the world just cannot assume. We are blessed just because we are His! As daughters of God, we have the right to pray and decree God’s good and perfect will concerning our lives! We have abundance! There is health and prosperity in all things! We are royalty, because our Father is the creator of the universe!
These are all things that we need to meditate on. The lies of this world will try to tell us otherwise! During that meditation time, I also recommend thinking about the goodness of God and His faithfulness to you. In your time with the Lord, take time to think of the testimonies. Think of the ways that He has made for you! Doing this convinces our souls even more of the goodness of God, and it will magnify our faith even more. This allows us to graduate to even bigger victories.
Those bigger victories include things like tearing down every stronghold of low self-esteem and low self-worth. As we meditate on these things, who you are in Christ begins to be magnified over every other identity.
I read a book once by Lisa Bevere called, Without Rival. She also does an exhortation/teaching on the topic here on YouTube. It was so profound to me the revelation that she gave about getting to know your identity in Christ through the passage in Matthew 16:13-19 NKJV:
“When Jesus came into the region of Caesarea Philippi, He asked His disciples, saying, ‘Who do men say that I, the Son of Man, am?’
So they said, ‘Some say John the Baptist, some Elijah, and others Jeremiah or one of the prophets.’
He said to them, ‘But who do you say that I am?’
Simon Peter answered and said, ‘You are the Christ, the Son of the living God.’
Jesus answered and said to him, ‘Blessed are you, Simon Bar-Jonah, for flesh and blood has not revealed this to you, but My Father who is in heaven. And I also say to you that you are Peter, and on this rock I will build My church, and the gates of Hades shall not prevail against it. And I will give you the keys of the kingdom of heaven, and whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.’”
Matthew 16:13-19 NKJV
Because Peter had a relationship with the Father, it was revealed in his heart who Jesus was. As the revelation of Jesus grew in his heart, so did the revelation of who God called him to be. It was released to Him as he knew more about Him. As you are endeavoring to answer the question, “who am i in Christ,” I want to encourage you to draw near to God. As you do that, more revelation will begin to grow in your heart about who you are and what God wants you to do for Him!
For a free downloadable list of words God calls you, see this Who God Says You Are post.
To hear some tips on spending time with God. Check out this video: How to Spend Time with God
Strategy 2 for Discovering Who I am in Christ:
Surround Myself By People That Identify As Sons and Daughters of God
Another strategy for discovering who I am in Christ is if I surround myself with people that are already identifying with what I’d like to learn.
The bible clearly says in 2 Corinthians 6:14 that we shouldn’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers. To not have fellowship with lawlessness, or people who practice lawless deeds.
“Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?”
2 Corinthians 6:14 NKJV
It becomes pretty hard to continue in your identity in Christ when you aren’t surrounding yourself by people that are also going the same direction as you. If I was going to be serious about discovering who I am in Christ, then I would make sure that the people I was in close fellowship with were also sons and daughters of God. Relationships have a way of perfecting us, and we can seek those relationships by asking God to lead us to a church home and pastoral leadership that fully maximize our potential as God’s children.
I would recommend that you continuously evaluate the relationships in your life as you continue down the path toward who and what God has called you do/be. Each season of life might bring different requirements.
When I first got saved, I was in college. I just joined a well known historically black sorority, and I had different friends and acquaintances during that time. When I gave my life to Christ things changed and God began to shift my life around. I realized later that these changes were for my benefit as I continued down the path of my salvation. The Lord ended up leading me to leave that sorority and He also shifted around different friendships that I had. It might not have been that those people were bad, but because of the season God was taking me into I couldn’t bring the old.
In order to allow God to establish us into a life that would be conducive to the identity and way He wants us to live, we have to allow Him to rearrange relationships sometimes. And that’s okay, because it’s going to bring out a glorious result!
Strategy 3 for Discovering My Identity:
Having an Active Prayer Life
Lastly, I wanted to talk about having an active prayer life. This strategy is tremendously helpful because it allows us to have continuous open communication with God. If you are wondering the answer to the question, “who am I in Christ,” the simple answer is to ask Him!
In our identity in Christ, we have access to the Father through Jesus! We have the ability to be intimately acquainted with Him. While spending time in the word, and consistently listening to teaching from our pastors, and surrounding ourselves by people who are sons and daughters of God, we can ask Him to show us the revelation of who He’s made us to be. How wonderful is that!?
He cares so much about you that He wants to answer your prayers and your questions. As He answers them, it means that you’re on your way toward manifesting by faith exactly how He made you!
I liked the passage in Matthew 16. When Jesus asked His disciples who the people are saying He is, everyone had an opinion. Some people thought that he was, “John the Baptist, some Elijah, and others Jeremiah or one of the prophets,” (Matthew 16:14 NKJV). One thing I like about having an active prayer life is that you begin to have confidence in your relationship with the Father. When He answers your prayers and speaks to you in that secret place, your confidence begins to grow.
The bible tells us in Proverbs 3:6 to acknowledge the Lord in all our ways. As we do that, He will direct our paths. We grow in confidence in knowing that God is leading us as He answers our prayer requests. The opinions of others begin to fade away as our Father guides us along on our path.
I want to encourage you to spend time communing with our Father, God. Get quiet with Him so that you can hear His voice over the many voices out there. Because your trust and assurance in the Father will be strong, you won’t have any issues with low confidence! As you do that, you will know the answer to your question, “Who am I in Christ?”
Resources
- Without Rival Book by Lisa Bevere
- Who God Says Your Are List (it’s free!!)
- Youtube Exhortation about Without Rival by Lisa Bevere
If you’re looking for ways to keep peace and joy and live an “unbothered” life all the time, check out my ebook, Unbothered, in the Uncommon Grace store. There you’ll gain strategies for keeping peace and joy while walking confidently in your identity in Christ!